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The Solution Provider Dilemma

We hear women saying I need a man who can provide solution when i have a problem but when men are solution providers you hear statements such as:           "He thinks he can fix everything in the world"           "He is a Mr Know it all" I'm just going to group this into two that is living with a man who can provide solutions and living with a man who cannot provide solutions.  Starting with a man who cannot provide solutions. In Zimbabwe women do not want a man who tells them: "Saka todii" (what do we do) when they have a problem. It's like dealing with a guy with no direction or having a guy who just makes you feel good and doesn't really have a future. I mean you should show your woman you got a brain lol.  Here is a twist, women crave for these solution providers but when the guy is having a problem they are the first people to say "Saka todii". I'm one of those people lol. I would say , "Ncaww its okay, you will be fine.

Communication: The Strongest Love Tool

Have you ever asked yourself why am in this relationship?  Yes boo the cause of asking this question is that you skipped the most important thing to do for your relationship to work that is communication. Shall we unbundled it.  When guys ask us out we don't really take time to think about communicating what we really need from them. I'm talking about telling them what you looking for such as:  1. I dont have time for games  2. I want someone who can provide solutions because in the Zimbabwean you find someone who will say "Saka todii" ( what do we do ) When you tell him your problems.  3. I want someone who can challenge me and brings ideas that build a legacy.  Communicating this to your man to be is important because this is when you know that you are in it for love and growth. They call this phase making your expectations and intentions clear.  Moving on... Communicating your feelings. I know that you can't just say I love you to someone its a process. Some pe